too much information

Why you shouldn’t share too much personal information online

LIVE, rest By April 1, 2012 Tags: , , , , , 5 Comments

I don’t usually write rants.  So brace yourselves.  Last week we saw Alicia Silverstone mushing up food in her own mouth and feeding her child with a bird-like mouth-to-mouth technique on Youtube (link below).  Today as I scanned Facebook, Babble asked it’s fans when their menstrual cycles returned after their children were born.  (And the question received 150 comments and 41 likes within 4 hours.)  Seriously?  Is this a productive way to spend our time, bare our souls and reflect positively on the art of Motherhood?  I think not.

I was introduced to a website recently called STFU, Parents. (You can guess the acronym).  With categories such as ‘Spoiled Brats’, ‘Mommy Drama’ and ‘Bathroom Behaviour’, it is a brilliantly curated compilation of Facebook missteps by parents.  The site “reaches thousands of daily readers and averages 1.5 million pageviews per month”.  And no wonder.  I could lose hours staring incredulously at the inane things that parents feel the need to share.  I chuckle at the inappropriateness of the posts and yet I also feel sad and mortified.  That there is a site like this makes a statement about our society.  In my opinion, we have crossed a line where nothing is sacred to us or our children.  What will Johnny think about the poop-smeared crib photo when he’s 13 and looks back at the Facebook legacy of his childhood that lives in perpetuity?

Having a laugh and feeling connected makes social media valuable and enticing.  Friends joking with each other and revealing tidbits about their day is interesting and also a great way to lesson a geographical distance.  But people must realize that this information is ‘out there’.  Potential employers have asked recent graduates for their Facebook login information, and reputations and careers have been ruined.  Posting negative or embarrassing information about your children could come back to haunt them – or potentially harm the trust within your parent-child relationship in the future.

The internet allows us to access information and have our questions (sometimes) answered without needing to communicate in person or search out a book.  Information on bodily functions, sex, and other taboo dinner-table topics from reputable, research-based sites are an excellent source of information.  But when I look to social networking sites for camaraderie, friendly laughs and the sharing of knowledge, I really don’t want to hear about vomit in your minivan.  Nor do I want to see a photo of the placenta.  And I most certainly don’t want to know the specifics of your teenager hitting puberty.  The value of social media is knowledge – real information that enhances our collective experience of our world.  We have incredible tools at our disposal and we are littering them with inappropriate information.

The Mouth-to-mouth feeding video.

What are your thoughts?

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Earth Hour Activities

grow, LIVE By March 31, 2012 Tags: , , , No Comments

At 8:30pm on March 31st, many people will shut off the lights for Earth Hour.  We don’t always need electricity and some of the best moments can be created without it.  Alison Ferguson and Meaghan Relkie from Every Little Bit have some great ideas on how to spend some non-electricity time with your kids..  We also have some great ideas on eco-friendly activities to do with kids to help get in the spirit during the whole day!

So…what can you do in the dark for an hour?

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Ronald McDonald House Charities

charity, FAM By March 22, 2012 Tags: , , 2 Comments

We were introduced to our first Ronald McDonald House in London, Ontario on our final All-Access Trip.  With 12 Ronald McDonald Houses across Canada, 309 around the globe and plans for 2 more in Canada located in Red Deer and St John’s, the scope of this charity is huge.

I was embarrassed that I only knew a few things to begin – like 10 cents from every Happy Meal goes to the charity, and that families stay there when their child is ill and hospitalized.  The amount I didn’t know, and had trouble imagining, was what changed my perspective on life more than anything else in the McDonald’s All-Access Moms Program.  Meeting real people in crisis is a powerful thing.   People with real stories, pain, and incredible strength.  I hope that my involvement with the charity is limited to volunteering, and I pray that I will never be one of the 10,000 Canadian families per year who become residents in one of the houses.

Just imagine being a parent of a child with leukemia when your spouse has to stay at home working. Imagine being a 4-year-old sibling of a sick child who doesn’t understand why Christmas isn’t happening this year like normal.  Imagine being a Mother who spends every waking moment at a hospital with no time to cook or do laundry.  The doctor’s visits when there is bad news, or when there is good news and hope.  Imagine just for a second and then push it out of your mind.  Ronald McDonald House exists in order to give families the gift of time.  As Margaret, the executive director at the Ronald McDonald House in London uttered: “We can’t buy the children time, but we can give it away.”  The gift of preparing hot meals, dealing with Christmas shopping, laundry and expenses can allow families to spend precious time together as a unit.

Here’s what I didn’t know:

1.  The first Ronald McDonald House opened in Philadelphia in 1974.

2.  New initiatives for the charity include Ronald McDonald Family Rooms in hospitals and Ronald McDonald Care Mobiles which may be used to travel to inner cities or remote areas where there are limited resources.  The 40 x 8 feet mobile vehicles are specially designed to deliver pediatric health care services, where children need it most.

3.  McDonalds underwrites the salaries and all expenses of Ronald McDonald House Charities Canada employees so that 100 percent of dollars raised go back to the Houses.  This is very rare.

4.  The (Canadian) federal and (Ontario) provincial governments have supported the Houses through capital funding as well. Recently, the Infrastructure Stimulus Funding program parceled out over 22 million to renovate and increase the number of rooms in the Toronto, Hamilton and London facilities.

5.  The family dinner program is a crucial component of daily life for families using the Houses.  Individuals from the community are able to sign up to donate food, time and cooking skills to make a dinner for the House. The value to families is immense.  After a long day at the hospital, parents and siblings get a home cooked meal that they don’t have to prepare or fund.  And volunteers can see the immediate impact of their efforts as they dine with the grateful families.

6.  Although it’s not completely free to stay, thanks to the support of their sponsors, Ronald McDonald House families pay on average only $11 per day though no family is ever turned away due to an inability to pay.

7.  Despite the increase in beds and space for families with children in hospitals, the Ronald McDonald House in London in particular has an occupancy rate of 86 per cent.  Wow!

8.  $37 million has been raised since 2004 from Happy Meals alone.  That’s ten cents at a time.  You can do the math.  I’m kind of inept with decimals…

9.  Spaces in the London House include: 5 computers with internet access, a toddler playroom, children’s library, play space for 6-12 year-olds, teenage room, fitness centre and a home theatre room. The different areas and nooks within the house allow families privacy and encourage them to live their lives as normally as possible.  The respect for the individuals is immense.  Families have their own locked cupboards in the kitchen in case the kids will only eat nutella or mac and cheese.  Tupperware and bags are readily on-hand if families would prefer to eat later or take their dinner back to the hospital. My favourite place was the treasure chest.  This room is very special and has a magical effect on the children that stay at the House.  But I can’t say anymore…I’ve been sworn to secrecy by the pirates.

10.  There is a section in many Houses, just as welcoming as the other rooms, where families whose children are immune-compromised can stay, in order to further prevent the spread of germs to these children.

I used to volunteer for many organizations and since having had kids I have struggled to incorporate charity into my life.  I have now found a place I can put down roots and show the kids what it means both for us and families in need to help.  Whether we cook a meal, take unwrapped toys to help siblings adjust to their temporary surroundings, donate some Tupperware containers or teach a tap dance class in the House to help release some stress.  I want to incorporate this charity into my life with my kids.  I keep thinking more creatively about how I can use my unique talents to help – donating time and talents are just as valuable as contributing money.  I took my boys to our local Ronald McDonald House yesterday to deliver toys.  They met many children and played, hugged and laughed.  For many, I think the friendship was a more powerful gift than the toys.

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Six no-mess crafts and activities for kids

LIVE, play By March 20, 2012 Tags: , , , , , , 7 Comments

Faries in a JarDenim RoadsIndoor HopscotchEdible GlitterIce excavationPeriodic Table Cupcakes

 

 

 

 

 

 

UrbanMommies publisher Jill Amery was interviewed on Shaw TV’s Studio 4 about great no mess crafts and activities to do with kids that help with bonding and learning.  A boon to parents everywhere!  We wanted to share some of the ideas, with some credit as well to the original sources of the ideas.  Happy bonding!

1.  Fairies in a jar: Cut the end off of a glowstick.  (This should be done by an adult – there’s a glass vial inside which, when shattered, creates the chemical glow reaction.)  Dump the contents of the glowstick into a jar and add 4 T. glitter.  Put the lid on the jar and secure the lid with duct tape (so curious kids won’t open it).  Shake.  Fairies in a jar.  We’re picturing lumieres at hallowe’en or backyard-camping companions in the tent.

2.  Denim Roads.  Faded jeans?  Upcycle, mama.  Cut the denim into 3-inch wide strips and arcs.  Paint yellow dotted lines down the centre and stick velcro to the backsides.  Presto!  Portable roads that will stick on carpet.  (Dinky cars not included).  Kudos to Jen from ‘lil Mop Top for the idea!

3.  Periodic Table of Cupcakes.  Ditto.  What an amazing way to teach chemistry to kids going in to high school – especially if they have a sweet tooth.  Kudos: Buzzfeed.  Wow.

4.  Ice Excavation.  Fill a bundt or cake pan halfway with water.  Freeze.  Scatter lego, plastic animals or your child’s favourite obsession over the ice.  Fill the rest of the pan with water and re-freeze.  Once solid, pop the ice ring out of the pan and let them go to town with a hammer, blunt knives or chopsticks, ‘excavating’ the treasures from the ice.  Note:  It’s a good time to talk ice age, dinosaurs, etc.  You can also do this with jello for younger kids.

5.  Edible Glitter:  Edible Glitter!! 1/4 sugar, 1/2 teaspoon of food coloring, baking sheet and 10 minutes in the oven.  Kudos to Silver Taylor for the idea.

6.  Indoor hopscotch.  Wow.  You are now a rockstar.

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Quick and Easy Pizza Dough Recipe

EAT, family meals By February 28, 2012 Tags: , , , 2 Comments

We love this quick and easy pizza dough recipe. It’s delicious and versatile bread that can be frozen and makes dinner or a snack quick and easy.

Makes 6 (10 inch) pizzas

1 package of dry active yeast
2 cups of lukewarm water
4 teaspoons of salt
4 ½ cups of all-purpose flour (you can use whole wheat too)
2 tablespoons olive oil

In an electric mixer with the dough hook attached, stir yeast and lukewarm water until combined. Add salt and then add flour until dough begins to form and is not sticky, about 10-12 minutes.Remove dough from bowl and place on a smooth working surface. Divide dough into 6 balls, about 6 ounces each. Place each dough ball on a lightly floured surface and cover with a towel. Let rise for about 45 minutes.

One at a time, roll each dough ball on a floured surface until a thin 10 inch round pizza shape is formed. Store by simply freezing unused dough in plastic wrap.

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Hotel Le Germain, Mercer Street Toronto

Canada, ROAM By February 27, 2012 Tags: , , , , , No Comments

I stayed at Hotel Le Germain a few months ago and then life happened so I was thrilled when I got the chance to stay once again.  When I think of Hotel Le Germain two things pop out –  the lobby bar and this crazy rope table the entrance. Oh, and the glass-encased shower that allows you to see into the bedroom.  And the water glasses with your room number etched into them.  And the ‘g’ chiseled into the granite in the bathroom.  And linens to die for. Oh wait.  That was like, 6 things. Yeah, I like the hotel lots.

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Disney Cruise Line Adventure

Our Disney Cruise Lines Adventure

cruises, Disney, ROAM By February 27, 2012 Tags: , , , , , , , 1 Comment

The call of Disney is an unmistakable one, now that my kids are getting a bit older. However, I’ve done the theme parks, and as much fun as they are, I’m not sure my youngest is quite ready for a week of ‘It’s a Small World’ at Disneyland or Disney World.  Enter the Disney Cruise. The Disney Cruise Line is specifically designed for family adventures balanced with some well-deserved R&R for mom and dad – all with the first-class style and service you’ve come to expect from anything Disney.

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Slow Cooker Butter Chicken

Slow Cooker Butter Chicken

EAT, family meals By February 20, 2012 Tags: , , , , , 5 Comments

Is there anything possibly more satisfying than a great butter chicken spread over basmati rice?  (Besides a good chardonnay to go with it).  My kids adore Indian butter chicken, and you can vary the degree of spice based on your taste (and their tolerance!).  The list of ingredients may be long, but check out the 2-step directions.  Complex flavours and easy assembly.  We heart you, slow cooker butter chicken.  Sorry, but we can’t help with the pakoras.

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