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Building the ‘Gratitude Muscle’ this Canada Day

charity, FAM By June 29, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , , No Comments

Nurturing Gratitude this Canada DayThere are concrete blessings for kids who learn to count their blessings, the Wall Street Journal recently reported.  In one study, high school students with high levels of gratitude reported having stronger marks, less depression and envy, and a more positive outlook than less grateful teens.

But gratitude is like a muscle – it needs regular exercise.  You have to use it regularly if you want to see the benefits.

Canada Day is a great opportunity to nurture gratitude in our teens and younger children. As we prepare to celebrate with parades, fireworks and barbecues, we can also explore with our kids the many reasons why it’s great to live in Canada.

Here are five suggestions for building gratitude muscle this Canada Day:

1)     Compare notes: Spend some time with a friend, acquaintance or neighbour who has immigrated to Canada.  Encourage your kids to ask questions about life elsewhere.  How is life different for kids here?

2)     Dollar a day: Brainstorm over a meal about how living on a dollar a day would look.  What would have to come off the dinner table to make the budget? What else would have had to go that day?

3)     Watch the news: Have each family member recall a news story that makes them feel grateful to live in Canada.  Share stories making the news, such as the war in Syria, or child slavery.

4)     Pick a kids’ issue: Look together at a web site exploring a challenge affecting young people, like www.nochildforsale.ca or www.child-soldiers.org. 

5)     Start a tradition: Make an online donation to an organization helping children overseas, as a symbol of your family’s gratitude for life in Canada.

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Finding Summer Activities with Heart

FAM, health By June 24, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , No Comments

Summer Activities with HeartIf you’ve cared for kids during summer break, you know how those ten weeks can stretch out! But summer is also a wonderful time to learn with your kids, in ways that might not normally have time for.  Best of all: they can help someone (or something!) in need, and feel really great about it.

Here are five activities for all kinds of kids:

The entrepreneur: If your kids want to earn money, brainstorm for small business ideas. The classic lemonade stand still lures many a thirsty family en route from the park.  Perhaps a portion of the proceeds can be donated to a charity.  Have your children research at least three.

The environmentalist: Create a way-station for migrating monarch butterflies, whose populations are threatened due to loss of natural habitat on their routes.  Visit http://monarchwatch.org/waystations/ to learn what to plant in your backyard or a nearby abandoned lot.

The fundraiser: With FIFA World Cup on this summer, many will have soccer on the brain!  Perhaps your resident soccer nuts could invite friends to play ‘the world’s longest soccer game’ in the local park, to raise funds for sports equipment for underprivileged kids.

The friendly neighbor: Is there an elderly person in your neighborhood, or mom with a very small child?  Summer’s a great chance to walk across the road with some baking, to ask how your son or daughter could help.  It’s a great chance for your child to practice reading out loud over the summer.

The caring baker: Invest in a tin of fair trade cocoa, or bag of fair trade sugar, and learn a basic cupcake or brownie recipe. Wherever your child offers these treats (to neighbors in need or for sale at a lemonade stand) he or she could share what they’ve learned about child labour.  Visit nochildforsale.ca to learn more.

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Keep Your Kids Writing and Thinking this Summer

FAM, kids By June 16, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , , No Comments

Keep your kids writing this summer Earlier this year, a letter sent by a child to the LEGO toy company went viral.  Seven-year-old Charlotte complained about the lack of opportunities for the LEGO girls available at her local toy store.  She noticed that the girl figures only visit the beach and the shops, while LEGO boys have interesting jobs and even save lives.  LEGO wrote back, adding to the story’s viral appeal and confirming for Charlotte that her questions were worthy of a response.

Why are we so pleasantly surprised when a child chooses to speak out?  Children have a built-in sense of what’s ‘fair’ or ‘unfair.’ E-mail, Twitter and Facebook provide endless opportunities for any child who can spell to ask questions of companies, organizations and governments.

Here are five ways to your children thinking (and writing) about fairness this summer:

1)    Help them feel heard: If a child feels something they see is unfair, encourage them to share more about their feelings.  It doesn’t have to be global warming.  Charlotte’s concern was simple, personal and right in front of her.

2)    Ask them questions: Don’t end the conversation with “Yes, that’s sad.” There are many things to wonder about together.  “I wonder who made the decision for this to happen?” or “Who do you think it hurt by this?” are great ways to keep them thinking.

3)    Encourage them to write: Some questions you can answer; others you can’t.  Help your child figure out who would be best to write to.  Is it a toy company, a company that’s polluting the lake, or your municipal government?

4)    Praise them for speaking up: Writing to a group of unknown adults can take courage, and your child deserves praise for taking the leap.

5)    Broaden their horizons: Share age-appropriate news stories and issues with them.  They may develop an interest in helping threatened animals (www.worldwildlife.org) or children who work to make our clothes or chocolate (www.nochildforsale.ca).

You may receive more than you bargained for the next time you announce bedtime, but you’ll certainly be impressed with their arguments!

Disclosure: This article was made possible through a partnership with World Vision Canada. #NoChildForSale

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The New Look of Diane's Lingere

FAM, GEAR, health, style By May 28, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , 1 Comment

New Look of Dianes LingereI thought I would never do it. When asked to participate in the new look of Diane’s Lingere by smearing paint over my naked body and gradually lower myself onto a canvas I did a double-take. Would it be safe? Private? But honestly the most insecure fear nagged at me: would my body look ok smeared onto a canvas? Yes. I was alarmingly more concerned about girth and cellulite than pretty much anything. Dianes Bags Diane’s Lingerie invited me and a group of notable Vancouver women to become a work of art. To honour the beautiful shapes and sizes of women they assist every day, Diane’s asked 25 women to paint their naked bodies and create art.  The concept would be rolled into the new look and feel of the brand and exhibited at a gallery be creating an art exhibition and silently auctioned, with proceeds going to support the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation – BC/Yukon region. It was a rush! I felt connected to the other women waiting for the paint. Some were curvy, some were tall and all were beautiful. As the completed works emerged from ‘behind the curtain’, I gasped every time. Works of art indeed! In the room I wasn’t nervous. Although women with video and cameras stood by, I happily applied paint, loving the mixing of colours and finding interesting places to apply them. Today Maya Angelou passed away. As I write and think of my body I remember lines to one of her most inspiring poems called ‘Phenomenal Woman’. Excerpt: (The full poem can be found via The National Poetry Foundation).

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,

They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.”

Dianes Lingere Orange What I realized as I wrapped myself in the snuggly robe provided by Diane’s Lingere was that society’s current ideals should never sway our sense of whether or not we are beautiful. Different shapes have been idealized over time, and every body tells a story. A curve here, a scar there, a bellybutton that implants so clearly onto the canvas it reminds us of our origins. We are a community and I am so grateful to have been a part of such a groundbreaking campaign. No wonder there are so many shapes and sizes of lingere! In the end I began to value my body and its curvaceous shape. I am a phenomenal woman. And Diane’s really does fit them all. www.dianeslingerie.com

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Do Ya Wanna Build a House?

charity, FAM By May 15, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , 2 Comments

Women Build with Habitat For HumanityThere have been many times over the years when I’ve wanted Elsa’s powers. Wouldn’t it be incredible if you could build a whole mansion with the flick of a hand like Disney’s Frozen star? Or maybe master a project that’s a tad less extensive – like tiling a floor, using a jigsaw or hanging a light fixture. There are thousands of people across the country who need housing, live in poverty and feel isolated. The power of community and charity can not only transform not only the individuals in need, but also empower the people who want to help others.  There are problem-solving women across Canada who can help while working as a team and developing construction skills in the process. The women build with Habitat for Humanity does just this. Perfection!

Habitat for Humanity Women BuildWhat family doesn’t want simple, decent and affordable housing? As an ambassador and fan of Procter & Gamble, I have been asked to represent UrbanMommies and put together a team of women in the Vancouver area to build a home!  The program is part of a three year partnership totalling $900,000, that will see P&G support Habitat’s family home builds throughout the county, on behalf of its Household Needs brands such as Tide, Swiffer and Mr. Clean. This year there are builds happening in Toronto, Vancouver and Montreal and approximately 350 new builds are expected across Canada in 2014.

After a group of ten women (and any UrbanDaddies who wish to help) participate in a build in Richmond in September,  P&G will offer cleaning kits to Habitat for Humanity affiliates to help ready the newly built homes for move-in once construction is complete, and will provide welcome baskets packed full of household products to each family moving into their new Habitat home. I am going to try to slip in a few Rainbow Loom treasures from my kids in as well. Because every new home needs some of those.

Habitat Women BuildHabitat for Humanity is a special charity, and I love that one hundred percent of all administrative and fundraising costs are paid for by the operation of nine ReStores in the lower mainland. It’s great when not a dime is wasted.

So… Do ya wanna build a house? Join our team in September for a one-day build! Learn new skills, bond, help others, and be a community. Because love is an open door. (You didn’t think I’d let the Frozen theme go that easily did you?) All Women Build photos provided by Habitat for Humanity.

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Peachy Keen on Health

EAT, FAM, health, lunches By May 13, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , , , No Comments

Peachy Keen on HealthThis spring, the UrbanMommies team has been focusing on health. Jogging, extra water and vitamins have all been part of the routine. With the gardens not quite in bloom and stores of frozen fruit and veggies depleted, I started doing some digging on other options for getting nutrients through food. Canned cling peaches. Who knew? They are actually better canned than fresh and are readily available in stores – even in school lunch snack sizes.

Myth: Canned peaches are less nutritious than fresh peaches.
Fact: Canned peaches are actually more nutritious than their fresh and frozen counterparts. Canned peaches have 3.5 times the vitamin C, 10 times more folic acid and 1.5 times more antioxidants than their fresh counterparts. (And they are in stores all year round when there is nothing growing in your orchard!)

Myth: Canned peaches are full of sugar.
Fact: Canned California cling peaches have no added sugar in the juice or water that they are packed in, other than the natural sugar in the raw product.

Myth: Canned peaches lose their flavour and colour through the canning process.
Fact: Canned peaches retain their flavour, colour and firmness even when cooked or baked in entrees, appetizers or desserts.

Because California cling peaches are picked and packed usually within 24 hours, they retain their appearance, texture, flavour and nutritional content.

So… I need snacks after my runs. I need some great family meal ideas, and after 6 months of making school lunches, they were getting rather boring. Enter California Cling Peaches to remedy all of these situations! 

Check our recipes for gluten-free sweet chili and chicken peach wraps and peach, goat cheese and basil flatbread pizza.

Disclosure: This article was sponsored by California Cling Peaches. And we bet you learned a thing or two!

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a world without dieting

Silken Laumann on a World Without Dieting

FAM, health By May 8, 2014 Tags: , , , , No Comments

Silken Laumann Dieting

I had very different teenage years than most. I never rebelled, I was an exchange student at 16 and lived in Germany for a year, and I didn’t diet. It wasn’t that I liked my body, but I was so wrapped up in the performing arts and dance classes that I guess I never thought about eating less because I was able to exercise excessively. I was one of the few. Check out the startling statistics above. Think of how much healthier and happier we would be if we threw away fads and crash diets and simply adopted a habit of healthy living. Think of what incredible role models we would be for our children. I am guilty of tugging at my clothes and holding my breath for photos. No more. I vow to give myself more respect and also to model better behaviour for my children. Wouldn’t it be great if we replaced the ‘fashion model’ goal with the ‘positive role model’ one? UrbanMommies had the honour of chatting with Silken Laumann about a world without dieting and I was completely inspired by her wisdom.

Silken Laumann and FamilySilken is best known for her amazing comeback from a serious leg injury to win the bronze medal for Canada in the 1992 Barcelona Olympics for single sculls rowing.  In her 2014 memoir Unsinkable, she revealed that she has battled with restrictive eating and an eating disorder throughout her years as an Olympian.

It was only after becoming a mother that Silken realized the importance of being a strong role model for her daughter and since then, she’s adopted a healthier outlook.

Now, in advance of Mother’s Day on May 11th, she has partnered with Multi-Grain Cheerios and pledged to never diet again for her and her daughters well-being, and is asking other women to join her in the “World Without Dieting” movement for the sake of the next generation. Here’s our interview with Silken.

UM: The term Never Diet Again is like a breath of fresh air! What do you teach your daughters and son about dieting and being healthy?

SL: I have 3 girls and one son. Our kids pick up on our own attitudes towards our bodies. The first and most important thing we can do is make peace with our own bodies. Kids are very perceptive – they watch when we eat or when we tug on our clothes and suck in our stomachs. I had anorexia as a teenager so was nervous in raising own kids.

I don’t have a scale or a full length mirror in my house except in my closet. I tend to talk about why we are eating certain vegetables and what they do to their bodies. I am fairly specific about why we need protiens and why we need vegetables.

Silken Laumann BarcelonaUM: How do you combat all of the mainstream media that encourages kids to diet?

SL: Girls are receiving an onslaught on what we are supposed to look like and how we are supposed to act. I try to analyze images that we see on screens and in magazines with the kids. I want to make them intelligent consumers.

UM: Do you see big issues in our male population as well in terms of eating disorders?

SL: Men have different pressures about having the six pack or looking manly but eating disorders touch men as well. It is much more common with women, though, who constantly speak and think negatively about themselves.

We must change the paradigm. We have talked so much about dieting and getting the right abs or what exercise to do to lose weight – not what exercise makes us healthier.

Silken LaumannUM: How did you feel when you took the Oath to never diet again?

SL: Taking the oath in front of a video camera was profound. It means a lot of thought stopping of bad thoughts when I have one. I replace the thought with a more positive one.

UM: What would a world without dieting look like to you?

SL: When I get on the multigrain cheerios site and I look and listen to what people are saying, the word that comes up for me is freedom.

Obsessive negative thinking about our body has a huge impact on our self love, creativity and the ability to be what we can be.  It’s about freedom, self love, and giving the next generation of boys and girls freedom to not think about this so we don’t have this conversation.

UM (giggle): Where do you keep your medals?

SL: In a recipe box. They were shoved in a drawer for a while but I kept losing my bronze medal – it was never a good feeling losing your medal.

UrbanMommies encourages you to also take the oath. Check World Without Dieting for more information.

Disclosure: UrbanMommies was provided the opportunity to interview Silken via telephone. We were not compensated for this campaign.

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Giving to the David Suzuki Foundation

charity, FAM By April 29, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , , , , No Comments

David Suzuki FoundationI remember as a little girl being excited for ‘The Nature of Things’ to come onto the TV. As the host, David Suzuki has been an environmental visionary for many years. The David Suzuki foundation began in 1990 with a mission ‘to protect the diversity of nature and our quality of life, now and for the future’.

One of the most exciting parts of the #30Greendays challenge with SC Johnson Green Choices is that by along with having me and my family participate in the challenge, they have also agreed to donate $10,000 to a charity of our choice on behalf of UrbanMommies and SavvyMom. Seeing my boys thrive in taking care of the planet and remembering my experience as a girl watching David Suzuki, we opted for the David Suzuki Foundation. With programs in climate change, creating livable communities, the establishment of environmental rights and justice, building community and helping citizens to connect with nature, this charity speaks to all of us in some way.

We are thrilled to be given the chance to support the Foundation, and also further the UrbanMommies mission to teach and nurture children through family activities. We have chosen to designate the funds to the youth education branch of the Foundation with the following mission:

“Connect with nature — assist Canadians, especially youth, to learn about their dependence on a healthy environment and the benefits of time in nature through outdoor education and opportunities.“

As part of the UrbanMommies commitment to the environment, we will do a regular feature on activities for the whole family that will benefit nature.

Our experiences from the challenge were in recycling, reuse, water and energy. The image above is one of the four Mother’s Day e-cards available to send in support of the David Suzuki Foundation.

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11 Ways to Reuse Common Items to Make them Useful

FAM, self By April 10, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , 1 Comment

I’ve been exploring household items we can reuse. I thought I would stretch the whole family to use items around the house we don’t really need to create things that are either beautiful or serve a function needed to be filled. We are getting crafty. Of course there are many ways in which we already reuse items—pickle jars become Lego storage, coffee tins collect coins in the laundry room and broken terracotta pots become drainage at the bottom of other potted plants.

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MATCH International

charity, FAM By April 2, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , , , , , No Comments

MATCH International Womens Fund.jpgMATCH International is a grant-making agency that raises Canadian dollars (non-government) that are put directly in the hands of the communities who are fighting against female injustice.  Is invests in social innovation by providing agency of change to those who need it most. MATCH believes that the ability for social change comes from within the community itself.  They believe that it is the people who live within these communities who are most capable of identifying what needs to be changed in order to create gender equality, and creative ways to do it. So to them, and to me, it makes sense that they directly support the people and the projects that are most affected by the struggle.

For example, in Malawi, young women were missing 3-5 school days a month when menstruating until MATCH funded a local program that allowed mothers to develop and produce locally-sourced cotton pads which were provided free to the students and sold within the community.  This project provided a source of income for the mothers and markedly reduced the numbers of school days the young women were absent.  On a larger scale, two years ago MATCH provided seed funding to the African Women’s Development Fund (AWDF) to foster programs working for social justice, equity and peace; today the AWDF supports 90 projects in 29 African countries.

I had the honour of speaking with Jess Tomlin today, the Executive Director of MATCH International Women’s Fund.  Jess was in Toronto this week promoting their newest grantee partner and project:  Boxgirls Kenya. This organization provides sport, leadership, and mentoring to over 800 Kenyan girls.  It gives the girls a feeling of empowerment.  It encourages them, their families, and the entire community to challenge the common perception of what girls can do, to see the world in a new light, and it allows them to think about how else their lives can be. This program yielded the first woman in Kenya to represent boxing for the Olympics games in 2012. This is the foundation of change that MATCH whole-heartedly strives to support.

Companies like MATCH and stories like these are the ones that inspire me to believe that we can change the world, that we can do more than just survive but thrive in bad situations.  However, for every project that MATCH was able to fund this year, 80 projects had to be turned down due to lack of funding.  MATCH was able to provide for 15 of the 1200 recent round of applications.  That leaves hundreds of communities who have created goal-directed projects still in desperate need.  Today I learned that of the money that Canadians spend on charity only 8% goes toward international causes: of that 8%, ½-¾ of this money is in response to a natural disaster – leaving 2% of Canadian donations going to all other international causes.

Jess Tomlin goes back to Ottawa today, in time to participate in the International Women’s Day on Saturday March 8th.  This venue provides an opportunity to raise awareness and increase donations to MATCH so that this organization can continue to grow and advance the rights and equality of women around the globe by providing agency of change to those who need it the most.

MATCH

– Colleen Docksteader

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